I live in Atlanta so car wreck’s are plentiful. People react differently when seeing a car wreck:
Some stop immediately and help the person.
Most drive by, feel bad, but don’t do anything.
Many get aggravated and just wish it would move out of their way.
Almost all are just glad it wasn’t them.
As we experience pain in life the people around us will give a similar response:
Some of our friends will stop everything they are doing and help in any way they can.
Most will feel bad for us. Maybe offer a short email of encouragement, but they don’t know how to help.
There are some who get tired hearing your story. Life is busy and hurt people can be an annoyance to them.
I think all of them are glad it just isn’t them.
We can’t control how people respond in our lives. It is easy to get frustrated and angry when people don’t reach out to you in times of pain. This is one of the reasons pastors try to stay on top of visiting hospitals. They don’t want you to think that they weren’t there in your time of need.
Our response is what we can control. We can get angry and bitter towards the ones that could have helped and didn’t OR we can choose to be thankful for the ones that helped in our times of need. We can choose to live a life of joy and thankfulness even in rough times.
Life is short. We experience pain. Let’s be thankful for the people God puts in our lives to help us through those times. Let’s extend forgiveness to those that didn’t respond the way we hoped they would. Allow the Lord to work in our hearts on both matters.
Suspect that He is up to something good during times of pain and confusion.